Fleeing The Scene and First Grade
TODAY’S BREW: Caramel Apple coffee. Thank you, Target. Thank you very much.
I have this time because Bennett, the 6 year old, is in school. THIS IS A MIRACULOUS THING.
The child loves school, loves to learn. And so he was happy as hell to go back, even when he found out that the only kid in his class that he knew was the one who bullies him, and everyone, really.
There are 2 other first grade classrooms, with all the other kids he knows divided up between them. No, I have no idea why this happened. While school isn’t about being in a class with your buddies, I do believe that learning and comfort go hand in hand. There has to be an element of enjoyment and peace to it, or it just isn’t conducive. So for the only familiar face for my boy to see each day being the kid who stole his little kid wallet last year? Not cool.
So, I became THAT parent. I called school….every day….at least once….and calmly and politely welcomed the new principal to school, thanked her for her time and apologized for taking it. And at the end of the conversations, I made it plain exactly how I felt.
WE DON’T HAVE TO FACE UNECESSARY CHALLENGES TO BECOME STRONGER. WE HAVE TO KNOW HOW TO CHOOSE THE BEST OPTION. AND SOMETIMES, THE BEST OPTION IS THE EASY WAY OUT.
Sure, my boy is incredibly friendly, and could have dealt with this kid, he’s only one kid. And they’re friends a lot of the time, but the overall feeling is that he is a menace. Sure, he could have gotten over this kid, maybe, but if there’s an easier way out, why not take it? First grade is a challenge all in itself. These kids go from 2 and a half hours of school in Kindergarten to zero in the summer, to 6 and a half right away. They’re eating lunch away from home, doing homework, and suddenly school is work, not just building and playing and coloring. Why add another challenge without need? Why make it hard when he has such a wonderful view of school to start out with? The first face he sees when he sits down and the last face he sees when he leaves are going to stick with him, and could erase half of the good feelings he has. Why risk that if there is another, easier way?
Raising kids isn’t about just teaching them to face their challenges and fears. It’s about showing them to look for other choices, and not being afraid to make them happen. There’s a difference between running and stopping. It’s okay if sometimes you just don’t want to. And sometimes, raising kids is about showing them that when they need you, you’ll come to the rescue.
Because at the end of the day, Mama Bear doesn’t fuck around.