Deadly Ever After

Getting Out of Stuff: Doing Things You Legitimately Like

TODAY’S BREW: the same weird thing from Hannaford

I like having too much to do. If it were an Olympic sport, I would be the gold medal winner and I would break all kinds of records and stuff in having too much to do. I also am always saying I am not doing anything, when in reality, I am doing so many things I am just a blur of motion and coffee grounds.

It’s hard to say you are sooooo busy when you’re having so much fun. I mean, really…the kids are hilarious. Hilarious like Friday night in college. And while I watch their very own little Olympics of legos, throwing things and eating, I am doing the part of marketing a book called “social networking.” This is also called effing off online. Sure, some days I am juggling a bunch of babies professionally at Learning Safari preschool, but that’s as much fun as the other stuff I do. My hardest work is doing extensive research on Mount Daisen, Japan, for the sequel to Running Home, and that is a bit tough.

It’s also done on my couch. In my pajamas. With a cup of coffee, my little Mexican dog, while watching Nickelodeon shows that I actually like.

Having too much to do is all in the eye of the beholder. I do find it beautiful. Having a lot to do means you must be good at some of it, or people would tell you to cut it out. I don’t profess to be perfect in any way, but I know I can do a pretty damn good job of running the show, and that feels good. It helps when I have those doubts about my writing abilities. I think to myself, “People think I am good at all this other stuff, and I don’t even like that stuff. So, I must be good at this.” I am lucky enough to be doing all things that I choose, that I love. How many people can say that? Not enough. So, here’s where I pull out the soapbox.

JULIE: Stop doing the things you don’t like.
READER: Pshaw, Julie! What, I’m supposed to stop working?
JULIE: If you hate it, yes. Yes, do just that.
READER: But where would I get money?
JULIE: Invest in you. What do you really want, and how can you make it work for you? Start there.

Let me tell you, I am a whole lot poorer now than I was two years ago, and I have never been happier. When I had plenty of money, it never felt like I had plenty of money. I never went on shopping sprees. I wasn’t debt free. I was no closer to owning things that are large and come with mortgages. So, what the hell’s the difference? I am much prouder of the fact that I took the leap to do something that nourishes me. I am much more proud that I will be able to show my boys that it’s okay to do things the hard way, because few things that are any good will come to you easily. I want to embody confidence, not just exude it. I want to make a difference in my own life before it’s over.

So, if you have too much to do, and you don’t like any of it, I encourage you to try to get out of it. Getting out of stuff can be a good thing. Agreed to go to your best friend’s cousin’s bridal shower and you don’t even have the energy to google the directions? Get out of it. Do something between the hours of 10 and 2 that Sunday that matter to you. Think how lucky you are to have stuff to do that you love. Repeat.


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